Being more intelligent than the majority is not always easy. These problems are typical of very intelligent people.
This text first appeared here at brigitte.de
Many people think intelligence is a rather desirable quality. People who are clever get through life better and are more successful, that is the general opinion.
However, only some people realise that people with above-average intelligence do not automatically have it easy. Do you know any of the following problems? Then you probably know from your own experience that a high IQ can indeed be a challenge. These problems are indicative of high intelligence:
- You think more than you speak
You are the quiet one in the group, even if you are very interested in the conversation? Group brainstorming sessions end in frustration for you because others are expressing your ideas while you are still reflecting on them? No wonder! With every thought, you always see a huge pile of context. You directly include different perspectives in each of your reflections.
And if it goes really badly, you also ask yourself the question of relevance. By the time you’ve got through all that, the others have long moved on to the next topic. Or they just look at you with wide eyes when you say something, because of course they haven’t given all your thoughts any thought and have no idea what you’re actually talking about.
- You are a lousy small talker.
Blah blah blah – everyone is talking, laughing, telling gossips about their lives and all the time you’re wondering where the bus is? With the people who care?! You just can’t do anything with shallow topics and still try to put them into a context where they have meaning, while the others wait for your reaction.
So you pretend, feign interest, improvise. It’s exhausting – and probably not only for you!
- You always get bored quickly at work.
Your brain needs new challenges and projects all the time, otherwise you lose interest. Once you’ve learned something (which is usually pretty fast), it loses its appeal pretty quickly.
You need variety, variety and more variety in your job – and such a job is not easy to find, unfortunately …
- You have a hard time with decisions
Do you envy people who can make decisions spontaneously and on instinct? Do you, on the other hand, see an incredible number of possibilities between which you have to decide? And then do you always play through all these variants in your head first, with their consequences and conditions, and then weigh up for a long time which way is best?
Well, my condolences! And a little food for thought: Maybe the “meaning of life” is rather to try out as much as possible and to learn from it than to do everything “right” at the first go. Because in the end nobody knows what is “right” anyway!
- You usually get the short end of the stick in an argument.
Your position is crystal clear, but you still find it incredibly difficult to stand up for it and defend it – because you can understand the other positions so well!
It is maddening: With every argument the other person makes, you understand exactly where it comes from and what he means. You see that it is also justified and look for the point in your counterpart’s train of thought where you can come together. But when you have found it, the argument is usually already over, the other person thinks he or she is in the right and you don’t think it makes sense to bring the whole thing up again. 6.
- You often have self-doubt
Who is surprised?! Firstly, you think about everything and everyone anyway, including yourself, of course. And secondly, you lack a lot of positive feedback: for example, for your great ideas, which you usually keep quiet about, or for the decisions you put off until fate or others have made them. But you are just as human as everyone else and need social feedback to build up your self-worth.
Therefore: Find at least one or two people who have the same problems as you and talk to them or just spend time together. And: Don’t make it so damn difficult for yourself! You are not worth more or less than anyone else. You have the right to make mistakes and to do or say something stupid or not fully thought through. Even if it’s hard: stop brooding and take a risk!
